Treatment for codependency

It can be incredibly lonely for people who engage in codependent behaviors. Often, the codependent partner/friend/parent puts so much of their worth in how well they can take care of their loved ones; which works fine until it doesn't and we start getting caught up in the cycle of codependency resulting in people-pleaser burnout and righteous anger when all of your efforts go unnoticed or you feel unappreciated. And rather than owning your own emotions and the cycle you're engaged in,  it becomes so easy to blame and criticize everyone else for their shortcomings. 

​

Codependency in relationship can take many forms: perhaps you're struggling with a loved one's drinking and you've overinvolved yourself in "fixing" and managing that problem for them; or you jump from relationship to relationship and "U-Haul" until you realize that relationship isn't investing the same energy into you; or you've become so dependent on the validation you crave from others (be it in person from friends/family/partner(s) or focused on the amount of "likes," "taps," and "views" your social media posts get online).

​

In therapy, our work will then be to identify ways of detaching (not with an axe, but with love) from the outcome of the problems other people are going through (easier said than done!) and instead, focus on building up your own self-worth you have that doesn't come from what you can do for others. Also, we'll explore what interdependence looks like in relationships and ways you can begin building safety and security in your life. 

​

I'm licensed to provide telehealth therapy in Kansas, Colorado, Illinois, and Missouri.